Friendships

Growing up, I often heard the saying, "If you have a handful of true friends when you're older, then you're very lucky." Back then, my world was filled with a bustling crowd of people whom I considered my friends. I felt incredibly fortunate, and the idea of this group ever changing never crossed my mind. After all, when you haven't seen much or experienced much, why would you contemplate change?

My diverse group of friends included those I had known since childhood, companions I navigated through the trials of teenhood with, and even those I encountered sporadically but cherished the company of without expecting too much. When you start with a large circle of friends and acquaintances, one of two things tends to happen as time passes: either the group remains large for most of your life, or it decreases in size while increasing in quality.

Over the years, I've come to understand that some friendships are rooted in the longevity of knowing each other. There's a childhood connection, and you've witnessed each other's growth. While not all of these withstand the test of time, like any relationship, it's about the effort you invest in it.

Then there are those friendships that blossom later in life, sparked by a connection or reconnection from a shared past. Common interests, mutual enjoyment of each other's company, or similar life circumstances form the foundation of these bonds. With time, these relationships evolve into something deep, trustworthy, and mature. Navigating through each other's quirks becomes a shared journey, marked by ups and downs that require an open mind, an open heart, consciousness, and self-awareness to navigate.

Of course, there are acquaintances—people who enter and exit your life without any real obligation. These friendships, if we can call them that, are often characterized by pleasantries, devoid of the dramatic twists that can accompany deeper connections.

As the years passed, people came and went from my life. If you had told my 16-year-old self the list of those who would still be around at 38, I wouldn't have believed you. Yet here I am, typing with a smile, because it's true: "If you have a handful of genuine friends when you're older, then you're very lucky." And indeed, I consider myself very lucky.

Let me finish this with a little ‘love note’ to the people who are no longer in my life...at least for right now...

Dear you,

Our paths may not cross as friends again, or if they do, it might be much later in life. Regardless, please know that I am appreciative of the times we shared in each other's lives. The challenges we faced and the resulting hurt have provided insights into who we are and what we're made of. I am also grateful for the support and comfort we offered each other when needed. All of these experiences have played a role in shaping the individuals we have become and the valuable lessons we've learned.

I wish you peace, love, happiness, and adventure!

With love from,

Ro